Anything is Possible

Do you believe that anything is possible? I was sitting down last night giving my daughter ideas on how to make a speech to become mayor of the make believe city that her class was making. One of her slogans was anything is possible. As Parents we encourage our children that this is accurate and why should we not encourage our children. If you are like me and have three children; you would have discovered that each child has their own personal gifting and talents. One of our roles as parents is to encourage our children to make the best of these gifting and talents. Often as adults we need to encourage each other to begin to believe again that anything is possible.

God believes that anything is possible; all you have to do is look up different people in the bible like Gideon, Ruth, Rehab and Moses to see that they all did the impossible. The other interesting thing we need to look at when we look at these people is that God saw them differently to how they saw themselves. God does the same thing we do as parents with our kids, God tries to encourage us to develop our gifting and talents after all God gave them to us and God expects and wants us to develop them to become great people of this world in any role God has placed you in. Don’t let your circumstance and lifestyle stop you from becoming who God made you to be. Stop listening to other people and start to listen to God again – who knows you might suddenly find some one telling you that you are God’s Great Warrior.

I grieved when my son was diagnosied with ADHD.

When you have a new born child, you can not help yourself – you count ten fingers, ten toes, you see their faces with two eyes, one nose and a mouth (I have a second cousin who was born with a disfigured face!) and you realize that this child you hold in your arms can do anything, that the future is unlimited and for a while you live assured that this is still the case, but then it happens one day, you find out that there is something wrong with your child, in my child’s case it was mild ADHD and mild ODD. You are aware that something is not quite right, but you cannot put your finger on it; I mean they appear normal, they look normal – But this, really Lord; now my child will live with a label over his head for the rest of his life! I was angry and shocked when my son was diagnosed.

It was now school holidays and I had arranged to go to my parent’s farm for a few days and all I really wanted to do was go outside and yell at God!!! But I could not as the weather was extremely hot. When I did get a chance I really gave God a piece of my mind, make no mistakes God knew exactly how I felt. The biggest problem I faced was that I know that I am under God’s authority so at the end of my speech I grumbled “Okay, Lord if my child is to have this then I place this into your hands.” My mum who I love dearly tried to find solutions to my problem – which I will admit she is good at, but all I really wanted was for someone to say “How could God do that to you!” I went to visit a good friend for our children to play, and while I was there I decided to break the news to her. She was washing the dishes while we were talking, she put them down, dried her hands and turned to me and simply told me the truth “we all love your son, he is a great child, but get over it. Two of my children have dyslexia, you don’t think I have felt the way you feel, get over yourself.” I looked at her children as they came inside to get a drink, and realized that I still cared the same for her children, even after I knew they had dyslexia. I realized that I had been a fool. The next time I went for a walk, I went to the Lord in prayer and told God how much of an idiot I had been in the way I was thinking and feeling. God revealed to me that when I had grumbled and handed over my son’s disorder to him, I had given up the right to feel sorry for myself, and that God had stopped me from going down the wrong path – that this was all about me. I had in fact spent two weeks grieving over my son as my mum pointed out to me when I told her what had happened, and I probably needed that time to let go of my pre conceived ideas of just who my son is and to start with simple faith and accepting just who my son is a God does. God bless you if you are on the same journey as I am – no matter where you are at.



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Why I choose to medicate my ADHD child

When I found out my son had ADHD, I was advised to go on the internet and find out some information about ADHD and medication, what I found scared me – I had made up my mind not to go down the path of medicating my son. I went to a naturopath to look into the natural alternatives, and even began following her directions. I discovered that I was not feeling right about this path. My son wanted to know what was happening, so I sat down with him for a heart to heart and this conversation is the one which made me realize that I was not the one who had ADHD – my son did. I told him that day that the woman who had tested him said that he had problems sitting down in class, and that we could see someone who could give him a tablet to help him sit down in the class room. My then six year old son smiled and hugged me and said “Good, I want to sit down in the class room.” I went to see my specialist and he did all the right things including telling me that I was a good mother, I agreed to the medication – still unsure and contacted our school to meet with the principal and the new teacher my son was to have that year. My children go to a good School, the principal and the teacher, would support me with whatever path I choose with my son’s ADHD; but also informed me that the school would not support drugged out children on ADHD medication, they had seen traits in my son that they knew that they could develop, and wanted him still to be himself. Five and a half years on; my son still takes medication for ADHD. The school worked with me to find the right level. My son sits still in the class – he still talks all the time. The teachers want him in their classes, parents constantly tell me not only how much he has changed, but that the love his personality. I now know that God is with us on this journey – I had to let go of many things to give back God the control in this situation, but it has been worth it. If you have a child with ADHD and are unsure about the medicine, talk to your child about how they feel socially about the situation. My son is a happy, confident child who has taken control of his medication - he is the one who remembers it at school.



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All Christian Children are Saints

They sit there quietly, they are the perfect children. Oh what it is to have Christian children. I can tell you with absolute certainty that this is a myth. Christian children are the same as other children. How do I know? I am a Christian with three children who believe me are far from perfect. My oldest has mild ADHD and the only time he stops talking is when he is asleep; well almost! My daughters look like angels and even can behave like angels, but they are still not saints. To be honest I enjoy the fact that my children are all different, I have long ago learnt that being a Christian and having children does not mean that you will have perfect and saintly children. I have come to accept and believe that God gets great enjoyment out of our children perfect or not. I know that God loves all my children equally, that God has given them all different gifting and talents. I am excited to see where God will take them as they grow up. It is funny to note that Jesus did not say “let all the perfect and saintly children come to me.” He left it open to all sorts of children when he simply said “Let the children come to me.” He did not expect perfect children or reject the children that did not sit still or who talked too much; he accepted them all and still does today, even when they grow up God still values and loves these children, he still has gifts and talents for them to discover. Find why our gifting and talents are still important today.

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